Are you frustrated with your life? Are you trying to make changes for yourself and for those that you care about yet nothing seems to stick? You work hard at your job or your own business and feel dissatisfied. All those extra hours without the expected payoff!

Your home life lacks meaningful connection too. You are feeling isolated from your kids and your spouse. You feel unsupported. You lack the energy to deal with all of this. 
You are not alone though chances are that you may be caught in a habit trap.

Everyone loves Super Heroes and why not. They come out of nowhere and save us from disaster. The classic ones like Wonder Woman, Batman and Superman disappear into an alternate identity probably to recharge themselves. 

You may also know or even be that Super Hero that is constantly leading the charge. Taking on more than your share of the tasks at hand. You may be an Uber Mom, an Uber team leader at work or both.
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Chances are that you are carrying far to much responsibility. You never intended for this to happen you just got good at putting out fires and others noticed and praised you for it, while giving you more and more to do. Pretty soon everything was urgent and things started to slip. You couldn't keep up even when you worked extra hours and took calls at home. Yet, no one seemed to notice that you were maxed out. Something had to give you just didn't know where to start!   

That's not for you! Don't ask, you always get rejected. If these phrases or others that are equally negative have been popping up in your head lately, it may be time for an intervention.
​One, that will remove these negative thoughts from you mind or at least move them to the junk folder. ​
There is a reason that a majority of us have a negative soundtrack guiding us. It's probably not what you think!

 My teacher, "Ten Bears" said, "When we walk outside the wheel of life, we are at the effect of all things and we affect nothing." I felt the power of entering the Wheel of Life or Medicine Wheel while participating in ceremony usually somewhere in the mountains with a group.

​This was always a transformative experience that opened my mind and heart to a world of possibilities. I felt alive and vital and in tune with Life.

Unfortunately, after returning home my world shrunk back to pretty much where it was before I went to the mountains. It wasn't until I discovered what was missing that things began to change.  

I have been reading Michael Hoffman's book "Natural Way of Being-Trust your Heart and Collaborate with Life" and he nails it. He very concisely explains the unholy relationship between fear and control. The very thing that he states we have to overcome, if we intent to fully live into our "Natural way of Being" which in Michael's description, is a place of connection, of being a part of the experiences that we are in.

This is not a cognitive place in my estimation and I have to confess it's been a lifelong struggle for me to fully grasp this. Even as I published my book, "Tribalize Now- The Practice of Belonging" some eight years ago, I was still too conceptual with my understanding of this. Having had some really amazing spiritual openings in my life, I now acknowledge, is a lot different from integrating them.