(I)+(T)+(A/T) = Transformation Process
This is a follow up to yesterdays blog on-Why New Years Resolutions Fail- at least most of the time. I referred to a Process Pledge as a tool to aid us in the creation of real change. It is a key piece of the Transformation Process. So when we break it down what is this pledge really? Think of a pledge as a promise, undertaking, commitment, assurance, bond, agreement and under law it is a surety, bond or collateral. Pretty serious stuff right.
Be the Change in 2020
The New Year is upon us and many are looking at the possibility of creating yet another resolution. My suggestion is to forget it! It didn't work last year so why submit yourself to the pain of failing yet again. The reason we fail and fail again is simply because we are using the wrong tools for the job and then blaming ourselves because it didn't work. So throw out the resolution and create a Process Pledge. What is that you ask? Learn more.
When you woke up this morning were you excited to be alive? Did you wake up to a bright eyed beautiful being that whispered, "I love you and caressed your cheek?" Are you thankful for your home and your transportation? Are you looking forward to another day of productivity and creativity either with an employer or on your own. If you are saying yes, then I want to celebrate the clarity, purpose and abundance that surrounds you.
Or if you woke up feeling miserable, lonely and feeling like the life, your life, the one that you had planned on living has been stolen from you then it's time to get over it. Let that old one go and buy a new one. Learn How
I used to live in Dallas TX and I would often miss the turning of the seasons. Summer it seemed would hang on until quite suddenly winter appeared. I enjoy the much more subtle shift that occurs here in the Pacific Northwest. What I am enjoying the most is the feeling of abundance that comes with the time of harvest. It is a time to gather with friends and break bread and share time and stories together. Most of all for me it's a time of gratitude and being thankful for all that the year has presented to me so far.
I have been rereading, " The Most Important Thing" by spiritual teacher Adyashanti, and it was on the second reading that this statement really resonated with me. This is a very difficult concept to embrace especially for a spiritual guy like me. Someone who knows that he is spending his life helping people solve some pretty difficult problems. I of course am in service to good, so I thought. This is not something that I would speak out loud yet it was definitely a part of my internal narrative.
What I have found recently is that it is possible to do good work without being entirely clear about why I do it. There is a certain "ideology of the good" that is fairly easy to slip into and the assumption that because you help people, how you do it is not as important.
About the Author
Behavior Change Coach and Author James Barfoot CHt holds certifications as a Master Practitioner of NLP and is a Clinical Hypnotherapist who is registered to practice in Washington State. He developed The Primal Toolbox a behavior change and coaching strategy based on a tribal models. James lives in Spokane WA.
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