I am not sure if you notice the choices you make each day. I know that I didn't for a long time and I discovered that is pretty normal. Many choices are made without a lot of conscious thought. There is usually a rationalization that supports our choices, and that happens so quickly we might not notice it. The worst part is that we miss out on some great opportunities when we are unconscious of our choices.

​Many of you are deeply spiritual and self-aware people who still find yourselves trapped by this believe. I know this is true because, I have worked with thousands of people on this issue and I still find myself caught in this belief.
Fortunately it's less often and I don't hang out there too long. Though sometimes I really need to make an effort to pull myself out of that ditch. Let's call it the guilt and shame ditch.
There I said it! That's the hook that keeps us trapped. Without the emotional attachment we would see the behavior for what it is and change it more easily. Please know that I am not denying the effect that these behaviors can have, on our lives as well as other peoples.

I have been doing a lot of thinking about the crisis we are facing in America today and how we might address it. I have also been thinking about how my own internal narrative or story feeds into this. My internal story is complex though thankfully a lot less complex than it was even a few years ago. What do I mean  by that? Have you ever felt like there is a story going on in your head between various characters? Most everyone has this experience though often times the story is so unconscious that we find ourselves acting it out as we are characters in a play. 
The way I see it, these particular characters form into identities that very rigorously defend themselves. Kind of like Avatars who are all fighting to preserve their Kingdoms or Queendoms as the case may be. Credit goes to Psychologist Jordan Peterson for presenting the Avatar concept in this context. These Avatars can have a very serious affect on our lives and the decisions that we make each day and they are seeking to preserve themselves at our expense. Perhaps even at the expense of our country.  

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He is out there and it is only you who is responsible for not meeting him. Let me state that again, it is you who is responsible for not meeting him. How do I know this? First, I am a guy and I have invested a huge amount of time and effort to find my soulmate. Have I found her let's just say I am in the process and I will keep you posted. I also just completed a twenty-six week Integral Relationship Facilitator Training course conducted by author Martin Ucik. His book Sex, Love, Purpose will both challenge and educate you. It helped transform my approach to dating and I can say it is now a lot more fun.
Women I am speaking to you now (Men you will get your turn) and though I am no expert on women I do know what it takes for you, to meet the man of your dreams. It takes a lot of intention to find that special someone. I see a range of women on the dating sites I have been on. Many, not all appear to have little intention for what they are seeking. Let me clarify, that about half the profiles come with no description at all beyond the form you are required to fill out. No wonder you are frustrated as you are not fully engaged in the process of finding your soulmate. Read more:

Most of the people who come to see me are frustrated with the current life they are living. Yes, even more so in 2020 and who would not be. Many see this as the worst time of their lives and I know that many people are going through undue hardship. I am speaking here of those fortunate enough to be healthy and working though not able to do the things they used to do. They may have felt somewhat unhappy or frustrated with their lives before this happened, and were keeping themselves so busy, that  they did not have time to think about it. Now there is time!