​Many of you are deeply spiritual and self-aware people who still find yourselves trapped by this believe. I know this is true because, I have worked with thousands of people on this issue and I still find myself caught in this belief.
Fortunately it's less often and I don't hang out there too long. Though sometimes I really need to make an effort to pull myself out of that ditch. Let's call it the guilt and shame ditch.
There I said it! That's the hook that keeps us trapped. Without the emotional attachment we would see the behavior for what it is and change it more easily. Please know that I am not denying the effect that these behaviors can have, on our lives as well as other peoples.

I have been doing a lot of thinking about the crisis we are facing in America today and how we might address it. I have also been thinking about how my own internal narrative or story feeds into this. My internal story is complex though thankfully a lot less complex than it was even a few years ago. What do I mean  by that? Have you ever felt like there is a story going on in your head between various characters? Most everyone has this experience though often times the story is so unconscious that we find ourselves acting it out as we are characters in a play. 
The way I see it, these particular characters form into identities that very rigorously defend themselves. Kind of like Avatars who are all fighting to preserve their Kingdoms or Queendoms as the case may be. Credit goes to Psychologist Jordan Peterson for presenting the Avatar concept in this context. These Avatars can have a very serious affect on our lives and the decisions that we make each day and they are seeking to preserve themselves at our expense. Perhaps even at the expense of our country.  

​










He is out there and it is only you who is responsible for not meeting him. Let me state that again, it is you who is responsible for not meeting him. How do I know this? First, I am a guy and I have invested a huge amount of time and effort to find my soulmate. Have I found her let's just say I am in the process and I will keep you posted. I also just completed a twenty-six week Integral Relationship Facilitator Training course conducted by author Martin Ucik. His book Sex, Love, Purpose will both challenge and educate you. It helped transform my approach to dating and I can say it is now a lot more fun.
Women I am speaking to you now (Men you will get your turn) and though I am no expert on women I do know what it takes for you, to meet the man of your dreams. It takes a lot of intention to find that special someone. I see a range of women on the dating sites I have been on. Many, not all appear to have little intention for what they are seeking. Let me clarify, that about half the profiles come with no description at all beyond the form you are required to fill out. No wonder you are frustrated as you are not fully engaged in the process of finding your soulmate. Read more:

Most of the people who come to see me are frustrated with the current life they are living. Yes, even more so in 2020 and who would not be. Many see this as the worst time of their lives and I know that many people are going through undue hardship. I am speaking here of those fortunate enough to be healthy and working though not able to do the things they used to do. They may have felt somewhat unhappy or frustrated with their lives before this happened, and were keeping themselves so busy, that  they did not have time to think about it. Now there is time! 

A week ago at midnight our state rolled back our opening and if you felt your heart sink, then I am with you. My thoughts are also with those directly impacted economically by having to close, drastically cut back or who are once again laid off. Indoor dining, bars and gyms, retail and so many more. I feel fortunate to be in a category that remains open. 
The truth is in any normal year when the nights grow long, it is challenging emotionally. We find ourselves going to and coming home from work, in the dark. It's also cold, wet and dreary, now add Covid-19 to the mix and we have a real mess. Who wouldn't feel down, we were hoping this would end and it's dragging on, we're closing down as darkness closes in.  I feel your pain as no one needs to feel this way, you are trying your best but not sure if you have anything left to give. The truth is you can get back on track in fact you will be stronger for having faced this ordeal you just need help. Do these three simple things each day to shift from feeling down to moving forward.