I am talking about paying attention at home, work or during social activities to others who may require assistance to complete a task. This is where the paying attention piece comes in. We often want to help and even though it may come from a genuine desire to do so, it is often not required. Be aware that proceeding in this circumstance may actually cause more harm than good by taking away an individuals opportunity to learn.
So how do I know when to offer my skills and experience to another. As you have heard me talk about so often the key is intention. Our intention in this case is simply to open our awareness, to allow an intimate moment with another being to occur. It's also okay to let them struggle a little before offering a hand up. On the flip-side if someone is constantly coming to you and asking you to do something for them that they are capable of doing themselves, it's probably time to say no!
There are many books written about the process of envisioning. Focus on what you want then create a vision board and look at it each day. Hold that thought in your consciousness and change will surely take place. This could happen or perhaps you will simply chase after the same old thing and get the same old result.
The truth is that we are a vision based culture and most of what we have been trained to envision is fantasy. The perfect home, car, job, date or mate. So many things to enhance our lives and make it all worth while.
So what do we do? We often double down on fantasy and ignore anything that might present the opportunity for a reality check. We can either continue to add more distractions to our day and keep ourselves deeply immersed in wishing and fantasy. Or we can start waking up to what is, and then begin asking ourselves what it is, that we truly want.
The answer, if it is to be authentic must originate beneath the level of our conditioned or reactive mind, in what I refer as our Intentional Core. Movement that originates here is often subtle and reveals itself gradually, more of a feeling sense. It may be strong though it is always receptive, as it invites life itself in, to explore with you.
On the level of the conditioned mind we are often seeking to escape into a better life, this drives us with an heir of desperation and fuels willful intent. You know the feeling of get it done regardless of who or what I need to push aside. If you have found that this is how you have often done things you will not be in the minority. We are trained into this and often lauded for this type of behavior.
The process of Intention Creation begins with quieting the reactive mind and opening ourselves to receive guidance, to view then enter open doorways to simply discover what is there. Not looking for anything and open to anything that may be presented. You will soon discover that this is a different way of operating. Everyone you meet every place you go is treated with a curiosity. It is important to pay attention as the universe will deliver the needed resource or information. What may be only tidbits or crumbs may have the makings of a beautiful cake. Next we will look at how to align our actions with our intention.
About the Author
Behavior Change Coach and Author James Barfoot CHt holds certifications as a Master Practitioner of NLP and is a Clinical Hypnotherapist who is registered to practice in Washington State. He developed The Primal Toolbox a behavior change and coaching strategy based on a tribal models. James lives in Spokane WA.