Life Hack Number 4- Find Duty, Devotion and Purpose
Use these practices to create a foundation for a vital, rich and fulfilling life. Think of these as a feedback loop that reminds us of what is most important to us. In doing so we are also acknowledging that we have the skills to keep us tracking that very thing. When we do this we are learning to bring conscious awareness to our actions. If this sounds a little strange then consider that we are navigating each day with mostly unconscious behavior patterns. Actually, not an entirely negative thing as our skills need to become a mostly unconscious operation for us to achieve a level of excellence.
The question to consider here is, "Are these unconscious patterns productive or non-productive in relation to my intended result?" When we view our patterns in this fashion we remove the emotional component. Then we can objectively see the source and begin to align our actions with our intention- (the intended result).
Understanding these components in turn helps us identify our relationship to this process and it's associated friction. This friction is a normal component of the change process often labeled as resistance and truth be told most of us are not fans of change. Now let's look at the components Duty, Devotion and Purpose and their interplay.
Duty- This is a strong word whose first association is often service to our country. In this case I am suggesting we expand the meaning to encompass family, community and self. Placing yourself first is not selfish or greedy it's necessary and healthy. How can we align ourselves with that most important thing while excluding ourselves? That wouldn't make sense would it?
Devotion- Love, loyalty or enthusiasm for a person or cause, also religious observance or prayers. I see this embodied as consistent action over time aligned with our clear intention or most important thing. This most important thing will likely change over time, though the act of devotion will always serve us. Devotion, a daily practice that brings conscious awareness to our actions is an act of self- love.
Purpose- This is what gives meaning to our actions. It is this reminder of what is important that moves us past the resistance inherent in the change process.
These three practices when aligned with our intention, work together to awaken us out of our unconscious patterns and we begin to create the vital life that we desire.
Life Hack Number 3- Excellence vs Perfection
Perfection leaves us all lacking in some way. It seems like a picture that has been touched up and not quite real. It's also a hook that lures us into the pursuit of something outside ourselves. It is tied strongly to objectification and longing. If only I had that perfect (______) my life would be so great! I would feel so good and people would respect me, love me, envy me, if only?
Most likely it's static which means once attained it is likely to degrade in value. It is often a measure that we use to denigrate ourselves. I'll never be perfect! I am not smart enough, good looking enough, rich enough, it's hopeless for me. It fosters feelings of isolation and separation and even if we achieve "perfection" or some idealized state the luster will fade.
Excellence as an expression of pure intention is a practice that embraces both action and consistent learning over time. Excellence is making your best effort according to conditions. The feeling is internal and does not seek approval. Excellence is a journey not a destination!
Excellence is an offering of your full attention to the task at hand. This can be challenging at first as we may be used to making half efforts that are good enough. Half efforts result in mediocrity and a story-line that supports your lack of investment. When your attention slips bring it back, "don't believe your thoughts" simply pay attention and relax into the task.
In time this will be your way of doing things and this new found awareness and the flowing sensation that accompanies it will be a gift to yourself. After all everyone deserves to be excellent!
Human Life Hack Number 2- Being Inquisitive
Start your day with an intention to be inquisitive/curious. This action sounds simple and yet is not so easy as we are hard-wired to see familiar patterns throughout our day. This is how we have been programmed to navigate and it takes conscious effort to see, hear and experience life outside of our conditioned reality.
If any of you have ever moved to a new city or traveled to a foreign country then chances are you have an idea about what I am speaking. You initially brought a lot more conscious awareness to your surroundings. In fact your environment might even have had a surreal quality to it. Brighter colors, richer sounds, connecting with people and places on a more synchronistic level. This is an open inquisitive/curious mind interacting with the world.
You experienced what may have felt like an altered state of consciousness and I beg to differ. Crazy as it sounds, this is our natural way of being and to live there we need only remind ourselves that we have strayed from home. Use your inquisitive nature to cease clinging to conditioned states of consciousness and the filters will soon drop off and give you a glimpse of what is. We may actually visit this place more often than we realized and next time you do remember to celebrate your return.
Do this for 30 days and Change Your Reality!
This practice only takes a few minutes a day and yet most people fail to do it! Over the next month I will reveal 7 human life hacks and when you select 3 to do daily, the process of being fully engaged in your life will firmly take root. You will be putting in place the tools to create the life that you truly want to live.
Hack Number 1-Begin your day with gratitude! This is a powerful practice that will quickly transform how you see and interact with your world. I use the term your world because you are either at the effect of everything or the one who effects change in your world. It is a shift in perspective, though much more so, it's the releasing of the story that has been used to define yourself. The story is a trap that was mostly in place before you were 7 years old and is not very useful now. Gratitude creates needed space for us to see past the old programming. This space is when you begin to flow with life not against it.
You can write in a journal, or sit quietly and simply allowing what arises, to occur without judgement . You may find yourself absorbed in compulsive thought patterns, so relax and celebrate that you noticed this and engage in thoughts of gratitude. Be really genuine with this practice and the results will surprise you. A sour moment may soon turn sweet! Practice for 30 days! Hack Number 2 coming soon!
Looking for the best self confidence hypnosis to find that elusive trait that others seem to manifest so easily? It can certainly burden your everyday life to suffer from a crisis of confidence, perhaps feeling you are the only one with this issue. Having low self-confidence can make you feel uncomfortable in social situations, stop you from going for the promotion you want, or advancing in your professional and romantic life the way you deserve. That is no way to live and you don't deserve to silently suffer from false beliefs about yourself.
Self confidence hypnosis can help boost your inner-morale and set you on a better course to enjoy life as you want to. Let's go over how many people try to boost their self confidence through outward appearance, how self confidence is expressed, and why self confidence hypnosis can get to the core problem.
Outward Change for the Boost
Before looking for self confidence hypnosis, many people start with outward changes such as clothes or hairstyles, and even the gym or plastic surgery. While there isn't anything wrong with spicing up your wardrobe or trying out a new hairdo, that does nothing but change the wrapper your lack of self confidence is hiding in. Putting bad milk in a prettier bottle doesn't mean the milk is no longer sour. The same goes for self confidence, the problem isn't how you look, it's how you feel.
The same can be said for the gym and plastic surgery. It's great to want to improve your health by working out, but if you're doing it to overcome a lack of self confidence then you're going to be disappointed. You'll find more things to "improve" and pinpoint new problems as to why you lack self confidence. It's a wild goose chase. Looking for external approval will always be met by the interior belief that you're not good enough or something is wrong.
Good news is that you know that belief is wrong and that means you can fix it! The best self confidence hypnosis addresses the internal rather than offering ways for you to accept any external changes. So, what does self confidence hypnosis do? One this is that it confronts that little voice in your head.
Beliefs and the Little Voice
Having low self confidence is having the belief that something is wrong with you or that you're not good enough. You believe you're not capable of something and therefore nothing you do quite works to remedy that belief. It's a terrible cycle to be in and one that is backed up by that little voice in your head, even to recoloring a situation to reinforce your low self confidence.
Self confidence hypnosis aims to confront that voice and help you realize it's wrong. You know that voice, the one that tells you no one in the room is admiring your new outfit and that you made the wrong choice. The one that tells you you're work isn't good enough to ask for a raise because of that one time you were late. That little lying voice that is robbing you of a better life.
The belief is wrong and the best self confidence hypnosis aims to not only quiet it but get rid of it entirely. The next question is then how does it do that?
Self Confidence Hypnosis
Offering your unconscious mind proof that you are good and capable doesn't work because you're arguing with something that doesn't work with facts or reality. Self confidence hypnosis works in the language of the unconscious and goes beyond trying to show that little lying voice who is boss.
The best self confidence hypnosis eases you into forgetting the erroneous beliefs and reasons that you have about yourself. While switching out the beliefs and little voice that impede your life, the sessions will replace them with the confidence you deserve and accurately reflects how fantastic you really are.
The Best Self Confidence Hypnosis
Forget all the movies and television shows that feature a snap of a finger and instant cures. Self confidence hypnosis nor any hypnosis works like that. It's more than a hypnotherapy session, it's an outcome that is tailored to fit your needs and goals while using effective practices to help you become the confident person you want to be. No two people suffer from low self confidence for the same reason and so, snapping fingers won't work.
Sessions typically begin by listening and discussing your self confidence while taking account of your everyday behaviors. The best self confidence hypnosis professional gets to know you and implements hypnosis practices in a way that are optimized for your benefit.
Don't spend your time shopping or working out to solve your self confidence issues. Get to the nitty-gritty and start with where your beliefs about yourself are: in the mind. Book an appointment to get that pesky inner voice on the correct course and begin your self confidence hypnosis sessions today!
About the Author
Behavior Change Coach and Author James Barfoot CHt holds certifications as a Master Practitioner of NLP and is a Clinical Hypnotherapist who is registered to practice in Washington State. He developed The Primal Toolbox a behavior change and coaching strategy based on a tribal models. James lives in Spokane WA.