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You Are Not Your Behaviors!

1/23/2021

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​Many of you are deeply spiritual and self-aware people who still find yourselves trapped by this believe. I know this is true because, I have worked with thousands of people on this issue and I still find myself caught in this belief.
Fortunately it's less often and I don't hang out there too long. Though sometimes I really need to make an effort to pull myself out of that ditch. Let's call it the guilt and shame ditch.
There I said it! That's the hook that keeps us trapped. Without the emotional attachment we would see the behavior for what it is and change it more easily. Please know that I am not denying the effect that these behaviors can have, on our lives as well as other peoples.

​It is important to own it, just don't beat yourself up as that actually reinforces itself, into a negative feedback loop. There is a solution to this and it is fairly simple though it does take effort.
Congratulate yourself when you become aware, either during or after discovering yourself engaged in a non-productive behavior! Yes, congratulate yourself! This will encourage you to change the behavior, where as shaming yourself will not.
Did you catch the second tool that you can use as it's neatly tucked into the above paragraph like a chocolate chip cookie waiting to be enjoyed. Can you guess what I am referring to?
It is how we frame a behavior, that helps us cease identifying as it! We tend to say I have either a good or bad behavior which is a poor assessment that creates more judgement. Good boy, bad boy! Really, let's get beyond this and see behaviors for what they are poor choices or better choices made with the information at hand.
Not to mention cognitive awareness. How many six or seven year old's can make a really good independent choice. That's where the patterns that get you through your day start getting put in place.
So, three things to sum up the process. No guilt or shame around the behavior. Start viewing behaviors as either productive or non-productive vs good or bad. Finally, congratulate yourselves for bringing awareness to the behavior.
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