Life Hack Number 6- Celebrate the Milestones
ou have made a choice to change a behavior and you are really frustrated because you just did the very thing that you did not want to do. You may even be feeling some shame or self-loathing around what just happened. Crazy as it sounds I want you to celebrate the milestone that has just been crossed.
Our behaviors operate on a mostly unconscious level and we may not feel good as a result of doing them, yet we seldom associate that feeling directly with what we just did. In this case bringing conscious awareness to a behavior we are not proud of may cause us to feel poorly. Yet it is this conscious awareness that will begin to pull us out of our ditch of unconscious programming.
Life Hack Number 5- Mastering Convenience
Humans will almost always choose convenience. In fact most everything in our modern world is designed to have us do so. Let's start with the obvious choices. Fast food is seemingly convenient and even if you are stuck in a slow moving line of cars, perhaps not so fast, yet quicker than making a healthy meal from scratch, especially if you have to buy the food first. Remember nothing has to be as advertised, just close enough to support a rationalization for making that choice. The lure of convenience is strong and once the mind makes a choice to take the perceived easy route it locks the new pattern in fairly quickly. In other words it becomes another largely unconscious behavior pattern.
Life Hack Number 4- Find Duty, Devotion and Purpose
Use these practices to create a foundation for a vital, rich and fulfilling life. Think of these as a feedback loop that reminds us of what is most important to us. In doing so we are also acknowledging that we have the skills to keep us tracking that very thing. When we do this we are learning to bring conscious awareness to our actions. If this sounds a little strange then consider that we are navigating each day with mostly unconscious behavior patterns. Actually, not an entirely negative thing as our skills need to become a mostly unconscious operation for us to achieve a level of excellence.
The question to consider here is, "Are these unconscious patterns productive or non-productive in relation to my intended result?" When we view our patterns in this fashion we remove the emotional component. Then we can objectively see the source and begin to align our actions with our intention- (the intended result).
Life Hack Number 3- Excellence vs Perfection
Perfection leaves us all lacking in some way. It seems like a picture that has been touched up and not quite real. It's also a hook that lures us into the pursuit of something outside ourselves. It is tied strongly to objectification and longing. If only I had that perfect (______) my life would be so great! I would feel so good and people would respect me, love me, envy me, if only? Most likely it's static which means once attained it is likely to degrade in value. It is often a measure that we use to denigrate ourselves. I'll never be perfect! I am not smart enough, good looking enough, rich enough, it's hopeless for me. It fosters feelings of isolation and separation and even if we achieve "perfection" or some idealized state the luster will fade.
Human Life Hack Number 2- Being Inquisitive
Start your day with an intention to be inquisitive/curious. This action sounds simple and yet is not so easy as we are hard-wired to see familiar patterns throughout our day. This is how we have been programmed to navigate and it takes conscious effort to see, hear and experience life outside of our conditioned reality.
If any of you have ever moved to a new city or traveled to a foreign country then chances are you have an idea about what I am speaking. You initially brought a lot more conscious awareness to your surroundings. In fact your environment might even have had a surreal quality to it. Brighter colors, richer sounds, connecting with people and places on a more synchronistic level. This is an open inquisitive/curious mind interacting with the world.
About the Author
Behavior Change Coach and Author James Barfoot CHt holds certifications as a Master Practitioner of NLP and is a Clinical Hypnotherapist who is registered to practice in Washington State. He developed The Primal Toolbox a behavior change and coaching strategy based on a tribal models. James lives in Spokane WA.
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