I am talking here about the other form of intimacy that tends to attract a lot less interest than sexual intimacy. I am talking about intimacy in our daily lives or perhaps the lack thereof. While this form of intimacy may not sound like a big deal for many of us. We may not fully understand the question. So let me ask it clearly.
Do you experience deeply intimate non-sexual connection on a daily basis? I suggest you use the word heartfelt as a guide to determine if the experience is in fact intimate. Can I include my spouse you ask? Yes, though I would venture to guess that even the majority of people in exclusive relationships will find that their daily lives are so busy, that their best chance at real intimacy is reserved for the bedroom.
I will also say that restricting it only to this arena, may not be a good long term strategy.
How so? Way too much pressure may be place on these intimate moments leading them to be less satisfying than desired. Let the bedroom be a place where tender intimate moments generated throughout your day have a landing zone.
A general lack of intimacy may lead to a feeling of dissatisfaction and placing way too much importance on the aforementioned source. Are you able to find intimate moments throughout your day? If not perhaps it's time to begin making time for more intimate heartfelt moments with your life partner. Then focus on expanding your circle of friends until you find others who are willing to risk sharing their hearts. Give it a try I bet you will find that it is worth the risk.
About the Author
Behavior Change Coach and Author James Barfoot holds certifications as a Master NLP practitioner and Clinical Hypnotherapist who is registered to practice in Washington State. He developed The Primal Toolbox a behavior change and coaching strategy based on a tribal models. James lives in Spokane WA.
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