There is a belief that spiritual teachers ought to be gentle, possibly passive or even egoless in their interactions with others. They will always eat a clean diet and recycle their waste! This has not been my experience and if this is what your seeking you may find yourself duped by someone in a spiritual suit. Spiritual teachers are real people who earned their understanding the hard way by facing their fears and owning their vulnerability. Never mistake this for weakness as having nothing to defend is far from being defenseless.
Personality and ego are two different things! I worked for years with a teacher who had lot's of personality and yes, an ego. It doesn't go away when you become enlightened it just stops driving the bus! It still gets us out of bed in the morning and takes care of our needs while serving our deeper spiritual nature.
The fact that it was in control in the first place is some kind of programming error a generational default. When we human beings lose our trust in who we truly are the Ego fills the void. Then it gets a press agent and declares itself indispensable and it discovers fear as the greatest weapon that it could wield. We bought it just as we currently buy so many of the fabrications that support this structure.
The best way that I know of, for dealing with this errant program is to invite it to join with us on this journey of awareness. Once the Ego discovers that our spiritual nature does not want to eradicate it, a shift will occur. Seems that loving all parts of ourselves even those that we are not always proud of is the clearest action we can take.
About the Author
Behavior Change Coach and Author James Barfoot holds certifications as a Master NLP practitioner and Clinical Hypnotherapist who is registered to practice in Washington State. He developed The Primal Toolbox a behavior change and coaching strategy based on a tribal models. James lives in Spokane WA.