I have been learning a lot of lessons since I opened my behavior change coaching practice last May. It's not a lack of experience on the coaching front, that recently raised warning flags, as I have 10 years as a clinical hypnotherapist under my belt. It was actually the hard work combined with an easing of tension that caused some concern. The tigers tail I am referring to is a gradual slip into unconscious behavior patterns or simply a lack of attention to detail. This is often accompanied by a sense of hubris, that takes us away from the reason that we do what we do.
What is taking place here is more common than not and yet few are able to recognize the mechanism. There are two ways that we can accomplish things the "Getter done" at all costs attitude is the most traveled route. Our culture tends to celebrate this as having a good work ethic and yes, it may seem reasonable to most. Unfortunately, the at all costs part may turn out to be extraordinarily expensive.
I recognize this pattern in myself and it has elements of what I would call willful intent. It is a kind of target lock that is so focused we fail to see other options or the path of destruction that we leave behind on the way to our goal. It may be possible to start successful businesses this way it's sustaining them that is the challenge.
So stepping on the tigers tail is a metaphor, warning me to watch where I am treading and change course. I created an intention to let my heart guide me in all aspects of my life with business being a key element. What I saw was nothing outstanding just a couple of steps away from my intention, just enough to see that I was about to step on the tigers tail. Thankfully I caught my foot early enough and set it down safely. My hope is that you will learn as I am doing, to let things unfold gradually in line with your deepest purpose.
About the Author
Behavior Change Coach and Author James Barfoot holds certifications as a Master NLP practitioner and Clinical Hypnotherapist who is registered to practice in Washington State. He developed The Primal Toolbox a behavior change and coaching strategy based on a tribal models. James lives in Spokane WA.
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