Surrounded by people and feeling disconnected maybe even empty inside. Going to events with friends and feeling like you are just going through the motions. Kind of fun on the surface yet nothing real happening on a human level. Everyone busy on their phones telling friends who aren't there how much fun they are having. Consuming just a little too much of whatever intoxicant is available. If you are well off enough, you could really get ahead and make your loneliness footprint global.
Fast forward 20 years and the venues you are going to may not be as cool, your friends a little worn. We are all chasing it are we not? That something out there that will complete us, fulfill us. Make us happy. I have news for you folks, it's not out there!
Happiness is an inside job and unless we are willing to own that, we will never experience true freedom. To paraphrase Mathew 10:14, "Take that bushel basket off of your light". The more you practice opening your heart and sharing your humanness the less lonely you will be. This is not a new new understanding, though it has been pushed aside by the deluge of infotainment that masquerades as wisdom in our culture. Most would agree with what I am saying conceptually. It would be awesome to get together with a group of people willing to share their hearts. Sounds good, please send me some info and if I am not too busy I will check it out. For a lot of folks that is going to be as close as it gets.
Bottom line is that you cannot share your heart conceptually. It is a completely experiential practice and to do so you have to be willing to get some on you! You have to be willing to mix it up with others who too, are willing to touch their humanity. When you do this often enough it sticks. As my teacher Ten Bears would say, "That my friend is a life worth living"!
About the Author
Behavior Change Coach and Author James Barfoot holds certifications as a Master NLP practitioner and Clinical Hypnotherapist who is registered to practice in Washington State. He developed The Primal Toolbox a behavior change and coaching strategy based on a tribal models. James lives in Spokane WA.
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